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Looking for another beginner anal sex position? Back It Up is your best friend! Ideal for shallow penetration and maximum comfort, this one is perfect for beginners. The receiving partner lies on the edge of the bed while the giver stands behind for easy, controlled access.
Last weekend was another sex marathon of epic proportions with my long-distance lover, and spooning/anal spooning positions were in the mix, but ouch – it felt so amazing during that I realized I was unconsciously arching my yoga-freak flexible back (and keeping it arched) to hit all the best spots, but lesson learned. I’ve been Recovering from a back muscle pull, but arching your back to almost a bridge position, while being jackhammered from behind probably not advisable for most. Funny not funny. Oops… Chiropractor time…
is not only a classic anal sex position, but it’s one of the best options for beginners, says Needle, because it allows the receiving partner to stay in control. “Especially the first time you’re trying anal penetration, it’s good to be in control of your partner’s penis [or dildo], so you can guide it at a pace and pressure that you’re comfortable with,” she says. “Take your time getting it in because the lining of the anus is very sensitive. Pay attention to your body, and stop if it’s too painful.”
Which of these is the best anal sex position for you and your partner really comes down to personal preference – we’d recommend experimenting with the few that find the most appealing, and maybe even trying something you hadn’t considered. You never know what you might find!
Before diving in, however, remember that everyone’s experience with anal sex is different. Finding what works best for you and your partner may take some experimentation and practice. For example, suppose you find it difficult to relax enough for comfortable anal penetration in an upright sex position. In that case, Carol Queen, Ph.D., and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, suggests trying a different position where the receptive partner can lie down and relax — little adjustments can make a huge difference.


